Learning to pick up after yourself

My parents both grew up in other countries - India and Hong Kong. Domestic labor is the norm in these places, especially for big families. It was not even exclusively for the extremely wealthy, but almost every family had a live-in housekeeper, chef, etc. I know my mom always talks about how when she grew up her mom always had help and it was so easy to find. To both my parents, it was the norm to have this in their lives.

However, to me it seemed kind of weird. We never had a long term live-in nanny/maid, because the dynamic felt too awkward for me. I found myself helping them clean, which would upset my parents. I think my parents thought the maids were making me do the work, when I just felt like it was wrong and offered to help. After all, half the time - it was my mess.

Now that I'm older, I understand that it's the only labor a lot of these people can find. Today, we have a housekeeper that comes twice a month. She's really nice and we always have fun catching up. It still feels awkward to me, but I know she's happy for the work. She even says she'd rather me be messier so she can come more often. I don't comply, but I guess I can understand her view point.

I think it just depends on how each person treats them. As the employer, that does not give you the right to be rude or exploit your power. When the employer starts power tripping, then things have gone too far and chaos is created. People need to be responsible for their own messes - which include their own prejudices.